I wanted to let my readers know that you can also catch me at TeamJesusMag.com as a contributing author. My most recent article deals with isolating those who we feel aren’t “Christian enough” for us to associate with. I share my aha moment and what we should do instead. Check it out and share.
So something you all may not know about me is that I fiercely believe in living in truth and respect for others. I can honestly say that this is something that I model daily. Being that I value truth and respect so deeply, these are the only two things that I get really upset about. When I say upset, I mean UPSET. If I feel like someone is being disrespectful towards me or if I know that someone has lied on me, I have been known to go into a place of unholy anger. A place that requires me to seek God in order to escape. Because I know myself, I try to live my life in a way that gives no one a chance to be disrespectful because I’m always going to be respectful to everyone. I also try my best to be very transparent and I live by the rule that you shouldn’t do anything that would be embarrassing if someone else knew. I feel like this saves me from feeling the urge to lie and doesn’t give anyone the opportunity to lie on me. To be clear, to lie on me is considered disrespectful.
The Angry Place
This is a story that only my husband and a few close friends know that I am going to share. And I’m going to share just to show how faithful God is in fulfilling His promises. A couple of years ago a woman that I considered to be my friend lied on me. And not only was it a horrible lie, it could have cost me something very important to me. Sadly, I would not have even known that she lied, but the person who controlled “the very important thing” called and asked me about it. I was so furious that I couldn’t even sleep the night I found out about the lie. The woman who lied is not someone that I could avoid, at this point I saw her on an almost daily basis. So I tried to figure out why she lied and I couldn’t come up with any other answer than that she lied to get herself out of trouble. This fact made my anger worse, because why would she try to get me into trouble with a lie when the consequences would have been the same for her as it was for me? Then I started to rehearse how I would confront her about the lie, because the level of anger I was at was not the level that would allow me to let the lie slide. I had to pray that my words would come out right and that I would say what needed to be said without being disrespectful and without sinning.
When the time came, I told the truth in a way that left no room for the lie to prevail. The woman who lied on me ended up admitting that what she accused me of did not happen. And I remembered God’s promise in Isaiah 54:17 “‘No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and this is their vindication from me,’ declares the Lord.” God did not allow this weapon (the lie) to win the battle against me and I was able to refute the tongue of the woman who lied on me. This is a promise that I have seen fulfilled firsthand. What I realized during that confrontation made me pray for the woman who lied on me. I saw a fear in her that I have never known. And although I was still angry that she lied on me, I prayed for her because I knew that she did so out of desperation. I also had to be obedient to God’s Word in Luke 6:27-28 (NIV) “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” In this moment, I decided to just love her.
Don’t Lie On Me
I was able to move on. I still had to see the woman regularly so I decided that ,although I did not trust her anymore, I would put this past me and at least have a friendly relationship with her. Things were going well for over a year and then she struck again. She told another lie that was in her own self-interest. I could not believe it! Another lie that definitely would have cost me the same thing that I love had it been believed. And again, it was behind my back so I was caught off guard. Except this time I was armed with the promises of God. Enough time had passed and my faith had been strengthened so much that I learned from the previous lie and was able not to be so upset, as a matter of fact, I didn’t react in the same way at all. When I was asked about the lie, I told the truth and decided to let my word be my word. I believed the Word of God was true in Exodus 14:14 (MSG) that says, “God will fight the battle for you. And you? You keep your mouths shut!” The only time that I spoke about the lie was when I was initially asked what really happened. I didn’t confront the woman about the lie. I didn’t worry about it after I told the truth. I just stood on God’s promise and let Him fight my battle for me. And you know what? It worked! The entire dilemma handled itself without me from that point on and it was proven that I did not lie. The beautiful thing is that no one even believed the lie to begin with. The woman that lied on me suffered the consequences and I am still cordial with her when I see her. Luckily, God has pretty much removed her from my life, I only see her occasionally now and it’s never long enough for her to fabricate any stories concerning me. I know this happened because I kept God’s command to pray for those who mistreat me. 1 John 3:21-23 says, “Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from Him anything we ask, because we keep His commands and do what pleases Him. And this is His command: to believe in the name of His Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as He commanded us.”
I know that this may seem like a petty example of how God keeps all of His promises. But it shows that if you believe, you can apply God’s promises to any area of your life. When you start looking for ways that God has shown Himself faithful it helps to increase your faith in Him. Start looking for God to show up in every situation, I guarantee that you will find Him carrying out His promises.
“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of Him.” 1 John 5: 14-15 NIV
Psalm 5:12 (NIV) Surely, LORD, you bless the righteous; you surround them with your favor as with a shield
Hebrews 10:24 NIV: And let us consider how we may spur one another toward love and good deeds.
“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
Philippians 3:14 (KJV), “I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus”.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new (2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV).
Ephesians 4:22-24 NIV: “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires, to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”
2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV: “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things (NKJV)
2 Corinthians 5:17
2 Corinthians 2:16
2 Corinthians 10:5